Fifteen years ago, I walked into medical school with equal parts excitement and nerves. Becoming a surgeon was my dream, but the reality of what lay ahead was far more challenging than I could have imagined.
I came to Australia as a refugee from the Bosnian war, carrying the weight of a childhood shaped by instability and survival. Those early experiences taught me how to adapt, endure, and move forward in the face of challenges—lessons that became the foundation for navigating the complexities of surgical training and life itself.
1. Growth requires adaptability and intentionality
Surgical training is not just about learning technical skills; it’s about embracing the constant process of growth. The hours are long, the stakes are high, and the learning curve is steep. But the key to thriving is not perfection—it is adaptability.
This idea is not limited to surgery. Life rarely goes according to plan, and adaptability is what helps us pivot, learn, and keep moving forward. Whether it is adjusting to a new challenge at work or navigating personal setbacks, focusing on small, intentional steps can help you grow—even when the path feels uncertain.
Instead of fixating on doing everything “right,” shift your focus to what you can do right now. Show up for yourself, commit to the process, and trust that progress—however slow—will come with time.
2. Purpose is the anchor through chaos
In the operating theatre, there is no room for distraction. Every movement, every decision requires focus. Outside of surgery, distractions abound. Social media, external pressures, and the race to “do it all” can leave us feeling untethered and unsure of our direction.
What has always kept me grounded is my sense of purpose. Growing up, I watched medics during the war save lives in unimaginable circumstances. That memory became my compass, driving me to become a surgeon and to help others in their most vulnerable moments.
Purpose is not about accolades or recognition—it is about what drives you from within. If you are feeling overwhelmed, take a step back and reflect on what truly matters to you. Purpose provides clarity, helping you filter out distractions and focus on what feels right for you.
3. Empathy is a superpower
The war left me with a deep understanding of struggle, and that understanding has shaped how I connect with patients. Surgery is not just about skill—it’s about empathy. It’s about seeing the person behind the diagnosis and being present for them in their most vulnerable moments.
In our hyperconnected but emotionally distant world, many people struggle to feel seen or understood. Real connection starts with empathy. Whether it’s a patient, a colleague, or a loved one, take the time to listen, to truly understand their perspective, and to be present. Empathy is the bridge that connects us, and it’s one of the most powerful tools we have to build meaningful relationships.
4. You can’t control everything—and that’s okay
During the war, I learned early on that there are moments in life when control is an illusion. There were narrow misses—moments when life could have taken a completely different turn, and no amount of planning or effort could have changed the outcome. Those experiences taught me one of life’s hardest but most valuable lessons: you can only control so much.
As a surgeon, I’ve carried this understanding with me. Surgery demands precision, preparation, and focus, but there are always elements you can’t control—how a body responds, unexpected complications, or outcomes that don’t match your expectations. Instead of fixating on what’s outside your influence, I’ve learned to trust the process and focus on what I can control: my preparation, my effort, and my commitment to doing my best.
If you find yourself consumed by the need to control every outcome, remember this: focus on what you can influence, and let the rest unfold. Often, the greatest peace comes when you stop fighting for control and simply trust in the path you’re walking.
5. Good things take time
Becoming a surgeon took 15 years, and even now, the learning continues. The best things in life—whether it’s a fulfilling career, a strong relationship, or personal growth—don’t happen overnight.
In a world driven by instant gratification, patience has become a rare and undervalued skill. Don’t rush the important things. Take your time to make thoughtful decisions and to build a life that aligns with your values. The things worth having are worth waiting for.
Finally…
The journey to becoming a surgeon was one of sacrifice, growth, and purpose. My early experiences as a refugee shaped how I see the world, teaching me how to adapt, endure, and find meaning in the face of uncertainty. Surgical training added another layer of depth, helping me develop focus, adaptability, and the ability to navigate challenges with clarity and intention.
For anyone feeling overwhelmed by life’s demands, my advice is this: take a step back. Focus on what truly matters to you. Celebrate the small wins, let go of distractions, and stay connected to your purpose. Growth takes time, but it’s in that time that you find clarity, strength, and fulfillment.